Alzheimer’s Disease. I hate it. My Grandma, along with at least one of her siblings that I know of, has it.
I’m 26 years old, married, and have two stepchildren and two children of my own. To my Grandmother? I’m in high school and will be getting my driver’s license soon.
Things have been getting progressively worse lately. My Grandma fell twice within the past couple of months and it’s just become too much for my step grandfather to handle on his own. With that, the decision was made for her to be moved into an assisted living home. I knew that the idea was being tossed around but I didn’t find out for sure that she had been placed into a home until I saw a picture of her on Facebook.
Yesterday while talking to my Dad on the phone he didn’t bring up anything about my Grandma. After getting off of the phone with him, I called my sister who recently moved to Hawaii. She informed me that about an hour prior to our phone call she spoke with our dad and he gave her an update about our grandmother. This update only came to her because she happened to mention something about Texas, which is where our grandmother lives.
Apparently my uncle and other members of our family went to visit our grandmother in her new home and to bring her Christmas gifts. In the couple of weeks that she’s been living in the assisted living home she forgot who anyone was. She didn’t even recognize my uncle – her own son. She had no idea why they were bringing her gifts.
My heart broke at this news. It’s only been a couple of weeks. I wonder if it’s due to the fact that she’s been taken out of the world she always knew. I know it was a difficult decision for her to be moved into this home, but, I also know that it was in her best interest.
The part that gets me the most is that my dad doesn’t seem to want to keep my siblings and I all as up to date as we’ve repetitively told him we’d like to be. We want to know everything. I don’t like finding things out days or weeks after they happen. And I especially don’t like finding things out through Facebook.
I understand that it is a difficult situation. Everyone is struggling with this hardship in their own way and it isn’t that easy to talk about. But, we’re all family. We all understand the situation. We all love this wonderful woman just as much as the next person.
I reached out to my cousin with my concern that we aren’t being kept in the loop. It wasn’t anything towards her. It’s just that she also lives in Texas and while I’m in Virginia she’s much closer to everyone and knows more of what is going on. She spoke with her parents and they decided to make a Facebook page to keep everyone up to date. Our family is so big and there is so much distance between some of us that it plays into how difficult it might be to make sure everyone knows what is going on.
My hope is that one day, sooner than later, a cure for this ugly disease is found.